good afternoon Reader,
up until september of 2024, i've lived my entire life under one limiting belief: i am who i am, and that's just the way it is.
i always thought i was born a certain way; an introverted kid with bad anxiety, forever destined to be a background character (basically an NPC).
i believed this was just the way my cards were dealt, and i was meant to live with these same qualities forever.
one word i was always afraid of though, was 'change.'
it was like that big, ugly monster hiding under your bed.
you know it's there, you know it's waiting for you…
but you just can't bring yourself to hang off the edge of your cushy mattress and face it.
that was me—drifting through life with no direction, subconsciously knowing i had bigger things to deal with.
i would deceive myself into thinking that i was changing through small stuff that didn't matter:
- getting my ears pierced
- growing out my hair
- buying new shoes…
but internally, i was the exact same.
because it was too uncomfortable for me to put in the real work, the work that needed to be done, to become a better man.
so i spent 21 years of my life settling for the fact that 'this is just me, and there's nothing i can do to change it.'
but i realized this was exactly what was holding me back.
so this is a message to myself as much as it is to you..
the things you want out of life—the six pack, the fancy car, the nice apartment…
all require a certain kind of person to achieve them.
and you can become exactly that person.
you can do what is needed to improve your life.
the people who have the life you want are not special by any means.
they're human, just like you.
they were just willing to accept the possibility that they could change, and took continuous action until they did.
ever since i shifted my mindset on this, it's like my eyes have been opened.
the things i used to only dream about, are now tangible.
i can see them—although they're quite the distance away right now—they're in my range of view.
because i know i can and will eventually become the man who's capable of having them.
and i've proven this by the change i've seen in myself.
i've grown more in the past four months than i have in 21 years, all because i crushed this one limiting belief.
"now that's all well and good that you figured this out gabe, but how can i do it?" - probably you rn.
don't worry Reader, i got you.
to start, think about any limiting beliefs you may have.
what are some things that could be holding you back from achieving your version of success?
could it be the way you speak about yourself (whether it's in your head or when you're talking to others)?
could it be your resistance towards taking action?
could it be your fear of change, like my past self?
whatever it is, think about how it aligns with the success you want.
it's likely that you're gonna see a disconnect somewhere.
but this is a good thing because now you've identified what's getting in the way, and what you need to work on.
they say it in rehab clinics, 'the first step to getting better is accepting that you have a problem.'
and it's so true.
you can train your mind to be an asset, rather than a liability.
and it all starts with addressing the things holding you back.
so whatever the monster under the bed is for you, think about what could happen if you faced it.
how would your life change?
(it's probably not as scary as you think.)
hit me back after reading this n let me know.
talk soon,
gabe
ps. dropped a short film on my youtube a few days ago, grab your popcorn n check it out here.
